Singleton in Taiwan

Though the young generation are influenced by American TV series, such as “Sex and the city”, and tend to enjoy their singledom, there are still some biased thoughts against people who are not married. Especially people who are over thirty, suddenly we become the target. Everybody can invade your privacy by asking the rude question, which is “How could you still be single?” as if it is a crime or something.

Therefore, singletons are like abandoned dogs living in a down-at-heel shelter waiting for adopters, who also believe that there is a Messiah or “Soul mate”, who will come to rescue us from this burning hell. People have tried all they can do, asked advice from the cognoscenti, fortune tellers, and psychics, as if being single is the worst thing they can think of. For me, some of these irrational singletons are sometimes like walking dead, all they want is to find human flesh and eat it alive.

It sounds like a satire and could be a bit exaggerated. However, what I really mean is you cannot expect someone come into your life and just magically fix all the problems for you. The whole soul-mate idea could be lacking in rigour, and sometimes coupledom could bring more problems.

Being alone is not necessarily lonely. Being single means you have more time to discover yourself and devote yourself to something you really feel passionate about. We’ve been told by the media and commercials that we are not completed until we have found the right person, but the truth is, we don’t need to be validated by some expert or anybody else. We are who we are. No one can define our happiness but ourselves.